Parenting Guidance

“ Behaviour is a child’s language”     

I can help with many aspects of parenting as I have a broad and extensive knowledge in child personality development, personality adaptation and how difficulties begin, and can help you when you are struggling with your child’s behavior or worried about them in some way.

As a parent I know about the heartbreak, upset and frustration you can feel when their appears to be no answers and when neither talking, incentives or discipline seem to make any difference. Also how worrying can overshadow every area of you life when you seem powerless to help. It’s also very normal to go from loving your children to feeling angry and even disliking them at times.

What is often not known though, is that many of a child’s” negative behaviours’, as uncomfortable as they might be for you are normal age related developmental behaviors and how to work with them.

Whilst I don’t offer counselling for children and this is something that may be more suitable I have developed an approach which has proven effective and doesn’t require the children to come to therapy and an initial conversation or meeting should establish if my approach is likely to be right for you.

Some common reasons I am asked to help:

  • Rudeness, belligerence and / or aggressive behaviors.
  • Social exclusion.
  • Guidance through divorce or separation.
  • Self harming.
  • Attention seeking.
  • Being bullied.
  • Regression into younger behaviors.
  • Lacking interest in life, friends or school work.
  • Showing different values to which you have taught the.

Our work is designed to provide a framework and plan you can use to turn around your relationship. Although it may lead to immediate changes, only by remaining sensitive to what our children need and offering this with consistency and by modelling the behaviors you want your children to copy, will you create lasting change.

Getting in touch

Please feel free to contact me should you like to know more or arrange to meet. I can offer appointments Monday to Thursday from 9am to 8:30pm and on a Friday from 9 to 11am.

Fees: £70 for each 60 minute session.

I can help you understand:

  • How their difficulties started.
  • The difference between normal age- related behaviours linked to emotional and social developmental as opposed to rudeness.
  • When rebellion, rudeness, withdrawal or aggression may be masking a child’s inner struggle or a worry they have.
  • What your child or children need from you.
  • How to keep or introduce healthy boundaries which enable children to feel safe and match your own values.
  • Ways to broaden your style and approach to parenting.
  • How to engage and discipline your children without pushing them away.
  • Spotting when children may have a potential medical or psychological condition.
  • What the effect of any tensions between parents or care givers has on children’s behaviour.
  • How your own early life experiences may be playing a part in your children’s difficulties.

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